Ghosts Of My Past

Haunted by the many conundrums in life.

Photo by Jr Korpa on Unsplash

Regrets. We all have them. For some people, regrets are a part of living life safely; however, for some, they’re a sign that they’ve been too reckless.

Stupid tattoos, risks never pursued, relationships left unkindled. They all leave a mark on our lives and follow us until the day we die. Pretty grim, but it’s true. Everything we never do and all the things we did do impact who we are and why we are.

They’re our ghosts. We can either choose to embrace them or hide from them. Our mindset makes the difference in how we cope with the feeling of regret.

For me, I embrace them. I make an effort to learn from my mistakes and welcome it as part of who I’ve become. Without those errors, I may not be where I am today. My life could be completely different. I don’t contemplate if it was for the better or for the worse — I assume it’s for the best. Fate brought me to where I am for a reason.

I know that the next time I come upon those blunders, I will apply what I’ve learned. I will have grown from the hardships I’ve faced. Our ghosts can be our friends. They can be our teachers. They can change us for the better. But, you have to be open to bettering yourself and growing as a person. Or else, it just doesn’t work.

My ghosts don’t haunt me anymore. Before I chose growth, I associated those ghosts with bad memories and treated them with malice. I used it as a way to be hateful to myself and hold myself back. We encounter regrets to learn from them.

Basically, if you got a stupid tattoo, remember why you got it. Was it out of love? Was it a fun, drunk memory? Was it just plain dumb? Embrace it, remember the story and the lesson behind it. But also, remember why you don’t want it so that you avoid getting another one.

So, laugh at the tattoo. Remember why you wanted to take that risk. Know why you want to rekindle that flame. It is because of your ghosts that you now know what to do when opportunity strikes.

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Journalism student at the University of Kansas | Ghosted in America Podcast Host

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Abby Peeler

Journalism student at the University of Kansas | Ghosted in America Podcast Host